by Aimee Wood
High school romances almost always seem to wind down as the summer of senior year nears. Most of these couples know that college lurks around the corner, and for many this means traveling far apart from each other. Summer will fly by and then those sweet high school days will drift away, leaving an important decision to be made.
417 miles separate me from my boyfriend of nine months. We have known each other since the fourth grade and have always been close friends. I started dating Matthew last May, and I knew I wouldn’t be able to end our relationship after the summer ended. Thankfully, we both felt this way. I left my home in Maryland with tears streaming down my face to head here to UNC Charlotte; he to Jefferson College in Pennsylvania.
I am fairly new to this long distance feeling, and this may even be the most difficult thing a couple has to go through together – or rather, apart. The strength of a relationship and technology surely help. Communication is the most crucial part of staying connected while so physically distant. Skype, texting, Snap Chat and just talking on the phone are pertinent to maintaining the closeness that once existed. Keeping in touch consistently will help to suppress the sudden feelings of loneliness. As far as maintaining the relationship, both people need to stay optimistic. Having faith in what exists and allowing yourselves to give it all to make it work out will be surprisingly beneficial.
During the most difficult times, couples need to acknowledge how strong they have grown from continuing their relationships this way. I have to vouch that as hard as it is, I recommend long distance relationships for serious couples going into college. Visits are appreciated more and time spent together is that much more special. Most couples take advantage of the time they have with their boyfriend or girlfriend. Being apart is also necessary because it allows a couple to grow as two separate people and decide where to take the next steps in their lives while still being able to love one another. The countdown on your cell phones to the next visit gives you something to look forward to every day. Also, every visit is well worth the drive or flight because the preciousness of every minute together is heightened. The distance will be well worth the time spent apart to grow, that is, if you’re up for the challenge.